I think the argument on Ricoche about "attitude control" is pretty dumb to talk about at this point.
Not that snark isn't always an issue, but it's something inevitable and will always happen. Bitchiness shouldn't be something to be banned or warned for, unless someone is really going "you dumb bitch, go to hell, eat ya mama's ______" or something really insane but a bit of snark? Heck no.
Not trying to excuse the bitchiness but really, it's not the beginning of the gal communities' problems, and getting rid of it is not going to be the be-all, end-all solution. All you're gonna end up with is something similar to those shitty Myspace groups, where all the newbies are sheltered to go on and err and not get any better, and any sort of constructive criticism will get you kicked for being "mean".
All fandom comms are exactly alike. The gal communities would thrive if there was actual DISCUSSION to build up the members and build up the connection between everyone.
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egl is rotten to the core with drama underneath, but community-wise it's still together. If something happens, e.x. something Sardina-related, something dealing with negative views of the style, a lot of the members will jump up and defend. I think that the main reason why people give a shit is not only because *they* are lolitas, but because the majority has at least the privilege of having had a million and one discussions, understand each other's views respectfully, and can tolerate each other as a whole group.
Gal however, isn't like that. Like Cat said, many of the girls now who posts outfits and pictures and shit, do so because a certain trend arises. Simple one-pieces, tees and jeans, things like that constantly pop up on the comms, and that's the main thing you notice about those girls. And it's not a good notice, it's a bad sign. Half the girls do their makeup, and half of those girls who actually do it, can actually be identifiable as gal. Hairstyles... hardly people do anything significant with their hair, most white girls just have their hair wispy or straight, like they haven't done anything to it. Girls are sort of lazy in trying to do the style, but they aren't lazy to take pictures and post themselves over the comms. Why is that?
The only people I can think of who can really hit shit off is Cat, Rio, Angela, Ashley, Jessica, Charlotte, Monica, Michi, Janis, Val, and like
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koko_gal. I try but I don't consider my look too close to gal most of the time, mainly because I am and probably always will be a lolita over gal. But the above I've definitely see them do shit on a regular and look right. Yet, hardly any of them involve themselves in the community. Correct me if I'm wrong, but other than having real life to deal with, I also think there's also just the annoyance of seeing people not trying hard enough, and it loses faith in the communities made for the style. It's the same as EGL for me. If EGL wasn't full of good dressers (even though, Lolita's much easier to coordinate compared to gal, which is much more mainstream. I'm pretty sure a LOT of the girls may know how to dress lolita, but not so well with more casual clothing), I wouldn't be checking EGL either. I barely post or check
daily_lolita with the exception for a few girls because now I find a lot of the outfits to be bland.
"Bitchiness" isn't a cause (or if it is, it's not a MAIN cause) for the current state of the gal community. It's interest and activity, as well as the state of the girls there trying to achieve the gal look. Most of the posts nowadays aren't discussion posts, nor anyone being "shot down", it's all repeated questions and video uploads. That's it. Note how many regulars came out when the girl posted the "gaijin gal" thread and pretty much said the same thing about activity and the lack of it, as well as the lack of dedication to improving one-self image-wise. And if most the girls don't try to improve their look, why are they concerned about the "gal community" and it getting media attention? It's really something they shouldn't be thinking about period.
( More gal-related shit. More for those within the area. )As for the tea party guests... I currently have just over half of the money. I'm hoping that this weekend or by next weekend I'll have most of the money. Soon I'm gonna have to start with the "either you meet up with me this weekend, or I'll take you off the list" shit, because there are other people who already have the money and are waiting for a space to open up, like Zoh and people. So yeah, if you haven't given me the money yet, let me know when you want to meet up man, so I can get this over with.
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